Reasons Why Men Cheat – Terrible But True
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In this hub I am going to discuss some of the terrible reasons why men cheat on their women. I will say it now that while you may not like the reasons you are about to read, they are real reasons that lead to men straying on their relationship.
I get a lot of feedback in our forums, and in times of despair when they are begging for help in getting back their lost love due to cheating or infidelity, I hear the many reasons for their indiscretions.
I will break down a few reasons why men cheat in this Hub, and continue to add more in future Hubs.
4 Terrible Reasons Men Revealed As To Why They Cheated
Bored Sexually – This reason came up a lot. When couples are together for a very long time, there is a tendency that they will fall into a routine when it comes to sex. This routine may include positions, time, and level of intimacy.
Opportunity – This one sounds lame, but it absolutely true as reported. Men with money or are good looking have quite a bit more opportunities to cheat than the man who is does not have money or is not quite as good looking. The more land mines in the field, the greater the chance that you will blow yourself up as you make your way across. The opportunities and bad predicaments will eventually blow up your relationship if too many are presented.
Need For Adventure - Men by nature, seem to have an innate gene for adventure. An affair is an adrenaline rush that may temporarily quench their thirst. Each time they meet their lover for a sexual escapade, they get their fix. This becomes like a drug and they become addicts.
Low Self Esteem – When a man feels neglected, an affair is just the medicine to cure his condition. While in the affair, his ego is fed and he is on temporarily lifted to the top of the world.
In almost all of the reasons listed above, the cure or fix is referenced as temporary. When you think of all the long term benefits of a healthy relationship it is such a shame that all of it is risked on numerous occasions for a “quick fix”. Well, it reality.
So what can you do to avoid such pitfalls?
There are certain things that no matter what you do will be out of your control. However, there are a few things that you can control to the fullest.
Use the list of reasons why men cheat to your advantage by counteracting each one of them. Sex has become routine? Try new position the next time you are in the sack with your man. Visit the local sex shop and pick up a few toys that you guys can enjoy together. Make time to have date nights in which you guys dress up and hit the town.
Afraid he may have too many opportunities to cheat? Keep him honest by checking up on the activities that take him away from the house for hours at a time. Call him in unusual times to tell him you miss him and you were thinking about him. Tell him you were in the area and wanted to take him out to lunch. All these are lovely little gestures that show your love while keeping him on his toes.
Life can get boring and monotonous. Add a little spontaneity and adventure to your life. Take that unexpected trip to that romantic island. Have a paintball outing to his surprise. Want to take it up a notch? Go sky diving!
Has your man looked in the dumps for a while? Start complimenting him strategically. Send sexy text messages to let him know just what you plan to do to him when you get home. Follow through!
I hope that you have read something in this Hub that you can use to enlighten or enhance your relationship or marriage. Relationships take work, so don’t be afraid to put in the work that will keep the relations going!
Good Luck!
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An interesting hub and it is easy to get lazy in a relationship to the point that the man or woman even gets tempted to stray. I like the advice on trying to prevent straying in the first place...Although once one of you strays I don't believe it's ever possible to go back to how things were...
Good hub and thanks for sharing....
Thanks for your replys.
"It seems to me that your listing quite a bit of ways for women to work really hard at satisfying their man's needs so they won't stray."
lindiesl - The unfortunate and sad part is that cheating and infidelity has been around from the beginning, and it will always be apart of how this world works. Just pointing out some of the real reasons why men cheat (and translates to women who cheat as well) and some little things that can be done to "hopefully" keep a healthy relationship away from that path. Alot of times, there is a turning point in a relationship in which a person weighs their happiness against the risks of getting caught and a decision to cheat or not to cheat is made.
My opinion is to always make that decision alot harder for them to make!
Debbie - You are 100% right. It will never be to the way things were, but that is not to say that happiness can not be restored to a broken relationship. I think each relationship is different, and it really depends on the individuals involved and what types of character each individual possesses. There are some really wonderful people that make "a" terrible mistake, never to make again. Then their are just some terrible people!
Just my opinion.....
You make some interesting points. I have not found cheating to be an issue, as I have pretty good self control and would rather finish a relationship or work at improving it, rather than cheat. However, the areas you mention are important for any couple to work on.
Socially sharing, up and useful.
Thanks Brett!
Relationships are hard, and they are not guaranteed to work out but if more people "finished the relationship" things would be so much better. Respect could still remain between the two parting individuals.
What a bunch of bunk it's up to the woman to be checking up on hubbie. I'm not going to do that kind of thing. If he wants to cheat than let him and when he does he's out of here. I see it this way if he cheats he does not love me anymore and I do not want him. Women shouldn't have to do all the work.
Have you every gone to a class reunion and seen how the men let themselves go but the women look young yet. Men rarely take care of themselves their wife does she keeps clothes clean and neat and tells him when he needs a hair cut. But the minute they get a little sweetie on the side they will start looking neat and wearing after shave. Just my opinion but really enjoyed your hub.
This was interesting. However, I feel if a relationship is not working, it's not working. Too many people don't have the backbone to just walk away, so they cheat. It's pitiful. Voted up and interesting.
moonlake - Thanks for your comments. But you are right. It is up to both parties in the relationship, but since this Hub is directed towards the cheating men, I am mentioning some things that the women should do to put themselves with the best chance of not being cheated on. In some instances, there are men on the fence when it comes to cheating and if that is your husband wouldn't be worth it if some simple actions (affection, compliments, etc)could prevent that. At that point (before he cheated), thoughts of cheating doesn't convict him as a cheater. Keep in mind there are many cheating women and women on the fence with cheating as well. Men should absolutely do these same things to help keep the marriage on the right track.
TIMETRAVELER2 - Thank you! How many things in life seem not to be working, only to be fixed and made even better. In a life time, there will be plenty of ups and downs and a down point in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean its broken and unrepairable. At some point the decision to walk away may be necessary but I believe there should be some effort put forth in rebuilding that relationship before you reach this point. I know there are exeptions for everything, but "its's not working" may be fixable!
lindiesl 3 months ago
It seems to me that your listing quite a bit of ways for women to work really hard at satisfying their man's needs so they won't stray. Now you have some valid points but I think this works both ways. There are two people in a relationship. Those two people need to work equally as hard to maintain that relationship. If a man, or woman for that matter cheats it is simply because they are not happy with their relationship. Not all men cheat, not all women cheat but when it happens it is because the intimacy is gone or the relationship is no longer valid. "If you fall in love with two people, stay with the second because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second".